We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are.
-Anais Nin
The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.
-Carl Rogers
These are two of my most favourite quotes. In order to be mentally healthy and happy we need to be able to regulate and accept ourselves. Not much happens until that happens. When we "clear" our inner selves the whole world feels differently. Our perception changes. In order to do this I offer the following therapeutic tools.
Integration of Mutually Useful Therapies
Paul personalizes therapy by integrating EMDR, IFS, EFT, and CBT and determines what is useful for the client and the situation. He works with negative self beliefs and associated feelings leading to anxiety and depression caused by everything from severe trauma to everyday difficulties.
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EMDR
Eye movement, Desensitization and Reprocessing
Unlike other treatments that focus on altering your emotions, thoughts and responses resulting from your experiences, EMDR therapy focuses on the memory, and changes the way that the memory is stored in the brain, thus reducing and eliminating the problematic symptoms. This is the "get deep and heal" part of therapy.
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IFS
Internal Family Systems
IFS believes we are not of just one mind inside. Instead we have many "parts." It helps people heal by accessing and healing their protective and wounded inner parts. You develop a healthier inside by communicating with your less integrated parts in a more accepting and understanding way. This is the "learn to talk to yourself better" part of therapy.
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CBT
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
Examining helpful and unhelpful thoughts and beliefs and determining how to make these work better for you. This is a practical "taking care of your thoughts" part of therapy.
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EFT
Emotionally Focussed Therapy
EFT involves rekindling the physical and emotional bond between people. In develops opportunities to have bonding moments as Love will transform if given a chance. I use this both individually and with couples. This the "building of relationship" part.
